Buying your first (or even your fifth) adult toy can be exciting — but it can also be confusing. Between materials, features, and the overwhelming variety available, it’s easy to make a purchase that doesn’t meet your expectations. Many people dive in without considering safety, body compatibility, or proper maintenance, and end up feeling disappointed or even unsafe.

At The Adult Emporium, we want your experience to be safe, satisfying, and empowering from the very start. That’s why we’ve put together this guide outlining the most common mistakes people make when buying adult toys — and how you can avoid them to make smarter, more enjoyable choices. 

1. Ignoring Body-Safe Materials

One of the biggest mistakes buyers make is choosing toys made from unsafe or porous materials. Low-quality materials can harbor bacteria, cause irritation, or degrade over time. Some cheap products may even contain phthalates or other harmful chemicals that aren’t body-safe.

Always look for medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, borosilicate glass, or ABS plastic when shopping. These materials are non-porous, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean.

At The Adult Emporium, we only feature body-safe materials across all our product lines — whether you’re exploring silicone vibrators or glass toys, you can feel confident in their quality and safety.

2. Choosing the Wrong Size or Shape

Another common mistake is going too big, too fast. While larger toys might seem more exciting, they can be uncomfortable or even painful for beginners. Likewise, shapes that don’t match your anatomy can cause frustration instead of pleasure.

Start small and simple. A modestly sized toy with smooth edges allows you to explore comfortably and build confidence. As you learn what your body enjoys, you can gradually experiment with different sizes, textures, and designs.

If you’re new, check out our Beginner’s Collection — designed specifically for first-time buyers looking for approachable, high-quality options.

3. Overlooking Lubricant Compatibility

Lubrication plays a huge role in comfort and safety. But not all lubes are created equal — and using the wrong one for your toy material can cause damage.

• Silicone-based lubricants can break down silicone toys.
• Water-based lubricants are safe for all materials and ideal for beginners.
• Oil-based lubricants should only be used externally, never with latex or silicone.
  
  

To keep your toys in great condition and your play smooth, stick to a high-quality water-based lube. You can find our lubricant selection crafted for compatibility with our toys.

4. Buying Without Research or Reviews

Impulse shopping might work for clothes, but not for adult toys. Many people skip reading reviews or learning about materials, power settings, or noise levels — and end up disappointed.

Before you buy, take a few minutes to read customer reviews and product descriptions. Learn how the toy feels, what settings it offers, and whether it meets your personal preferences.

At The Adult Emporium, we provide detailed product descriptions and verified customer reviews, so you can make informed decisions with confidence.

5. Ignoring Maintenance and Cleaning

Even the best toy won’t stay safe forever if it’s not cleaned and maintained properly. A big mistake buyers make is using toys repeatedly without sanitizing them. This can lead to bacterial buildup and potential infections.

Always clean your toys before and after each use using warm water and mild soap or a toy-specific cleaner. For waterproof models, submerge them safely; for non-waterproof toys, wipe with a damp cloth.

We recommend browsing our cleaning accessories and guides to keep your collection hygienic and long-lasting.

6. Not Considering Noise, Power, or Discretion

A toy that’s too loud or too powerful can be intimidating — especially for first-time users. On the other hand, toys that are too weak might not deliver the experience you expect.

Before purchasing, consider your environment:

• Do you live with roommates or family? Look for quiet or whisper-quiet motors.
• Prefer strong vibrations? Opt for rechargeable wands or dual-motor designs.
• Need something discreet? Compact, travel-friendly toys fit perfectly into your lifestyle.
  
  

At The Adult Emporium, our best sellers include models across all power and noise levels, ensuring you’ll find the perfect match for your comfort zone.

7. Ignoring Product Return or Warranty Policies

Sometimes, even with research, a toy might not meet expectations. Unfortunately, many buyers don’t check return or warranty policies before purchasing.

While hygiene laws prevent most stores from accepting returns on used products, reputable brands often offer manufacturer warranties on faulty or damaged items. The Adult Emporium works only with trusted suppliers who stand behind their products, ensuring your investment is protected.

8. Skipping the Exploration Phase

Many first-time buyers expect instant perfection — but discovering what you like is a process. Experimentation and patience are key.

Start by exploring different sensations, temperatures, and pressures. Pair your toy with soft lighting, music, or mindfulness techniques to focus on how your body responds.

We recommend reading our Intimacy & Self-Care Blog for guides on creating a comfortable, enjoyable environment for exploration.

9. Neglecting Safety Features

Always check that your toy includes essential safety features:

• A flared base for anal play.
• Waterproof seals for bathroom use.
• Certified electrical safety for rechargeable models.
  

Skipping these details can lead to injury or product damage. At The Adult Emporium, we vet all products to meet international safety standards before adding them to our catalog.

10. Buying from Unreliable Sources

Finally, one of the most serious mistakes is purchasing from unverified online sellers or counterfeit marketplaces. Cheap knockoffs may look similar but are often made with unsafe materials or poor construction.

Always shop from trusted retailers who prioritize safety and privacy. The Adult Emporium offers discreet shipping, verified product quality, and exceptional customer support to ensure your experience is worry-free.

Expert Tips for Smart Buying

• Start with one or two simple toys and learn what works for you.
• Don’t rush — explore at your own pace.
• Always use compatible lubricants and proper cleaning products.
• Store your toys separately in clean, dry pouches.
• Read our guides before upgrading to more advanced toys.
  
  

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What material should I avoid when buying adult toys?
Avoid toys made of jelly, rubber, or anything labeled “novelty use only.” These materials are porous and can trap bacteria.

2. How can I tell if a toy is body-safe?
Look for medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, or borosilicate glass. Reputable brands and shops, like The Adult Emporium, clearly label safety information.

3. What’s the easiest toy for beginners?
Start with a small, silicone bullet vibrator or a flexible clitoral stimulator. They’re comfortable, easy to use, and discreet.

4. Can I use one toy for both partners?
Yes, but clean it thoroughly or use a barrier like a condom between uses to prevent bacteria transfer.

5. What’s the best way to clean toys?
Use warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Dry completely before storing. Avoid alcohol or harsh chemicals unless the manufacturer specifies.

Conclusion

Buying adult toys should be fun, empowering, and safe — not stressful. By understanding common mistakes, from ignoring materials to skipping research, you can make smarter, safer purchases that truly enhance your pleasure and confidence.

At The Adult Emporium, we’re committed to providing high-quality, body-safe, and beginner-friendly products backed by education and support. Whether you’re shopping for your first toy or upgrading your collection, we’re here to help you every step of the way.

Visit our Contact Page to get personalized recommendations or learn more about choosing the right product for you.